Embrace Empathy: Your Guide to Inner Peace and Power in 2024
As we begin this new year it is often an opportunity for our inner critic to get busy! “You didn’t do enough last year. You better get busy this year.” This world can be so harsh, can’t it? So many people attacking themselves and others for not meeting impossibly high standards. It breaks my […]
The Victim Saboteur
I think most of us would hesitate to accept that we may have the Victim Saboteur as one of our coping mechanisms. We don’t like to think of ourselves as victims. But the Victim Saboteur is very effective at least in the short term in helping us get our needs met. So it’s no […]
The Stickler Saboteur – My Way or the Highway!
The Stickler Saboteur has some many admirable characteristics. They are hard workers and dependable. If a project needs doing, they will be the ones staying late to make sure it is done “right.” Many people who are victims of this saboteur will admit that they are a “little bit perfectionistic.” They believe that there is […]
The Restless Saboteur – What’s Next?
May I introduce you to The Restless Saboteur? If you are driven by this saboteur you are probably already thinking that there are better things to do with your life then read a blog entry! The Restless Saboteur has a very hard time focusing on the present moment and feeling contentment in that moment. You […]
The Hyper-Vigilant Saboteur – Always Prepare for the Worst!
Life is dangerous. People cannot be trusted. If I am not prepared no one else will be. Thoughts like these are the constant refrain of the Hyper-Vigilant Saboteur. A person run by this saboteur is in an almost constant state of anxiety. This saboteur causes a person to doubt themselves and others. They want to […]
The Hyper-Rational Saboteur – It’s the “Right” Way to Be!
Have you ever met someone who under stress becomes super rational? (Maybe the person you’ve met with this characteristics is you! ) The bigger the crisis the more focused this person becomes-looking for the “right” answer. The Hyper-rational Saboteur tends to come across as detached, intellectual and private. They are often skeptical or cynical in […]
The Hyper-Achiever Saboteur – Now What’s Wrong with That?
The saboteur we will focus on today is the Hyper-Achiever. Our society honors the achiever (think the Olympics!) so that is why the Hyper-Achiever Saboteur is so sneaky. People who have this as one of their saboteurs are often reluctant to let it go. They give it credit for driving their success. In some ways […]
Is The Controller Saboteur Running Your Life?
Did you grow up in a chaotic environment? If you did, you most likely have The Controller as one of your saboteurs. It can go either way. Some children who grow up in chaos recreate that environment and others decide they will do everything they can to never be out of control again! You don’t need to […]
Is “The Avoider” Sabotaging Your Success?
Every single human on the planet has The Judge as a saboteur. The Judge however does not work alone. It has assistants! One of the judge’s assistant saboteur’s is the Avoider. See if this description resonates with you… The Avoider saboteur focuses on the positive in an extreme way. At the same time it avoids […]
Is the News Making You Sick?
How often do you read, watch or listen to the news? If your answer is, “Too often!” you are not alone. A recent survey reports that one in 10 adults checks the news every hour and 20% say they are constantly monitoring their social media feeds- which often include news stories. Just think for a […]