Of all the fears in the world, fear of success is the fear we are most blind to. Many client’s will tell me they are afraid of failure not success. So I challenge them look at their lives, goals, dreams and the truth is, they are already failing to meet those goals. They are handling failure just fine! Most of us are not that afraid of failure, we are afraid of success. One of the top reasons for fearing success is the fear of loneliness. Think about what happens when you are the boss or manager over a group of people. No longer can you stand and gripe at the water-cooler. You have to keep your feelings more contained. You feel alone.

Studies of top performers in business and sports show that top performers enjoy being alone. They enjoy focusing inwardly. This doesn’t mean that they are antisocial it simply means they enjoy the time they have to be alone and work on their craft. Rather then focusing on loneliness they focus on how their success will attract people to them.
Take a minute to think about your vision of success. Are you afraid that when you reach your goals you won’t fit in with your family, friends or business associates anymore? Can you handle being alone for periods of time without feeling lonely? If you are seeing some mental roadblocks to reaching success then now is the time to work on them. Start finding ways to spend time alone and enjoy it. Challenge yourself to think of success as a people-attractor. Understand that while you may lose some friends who are threatened by your success you will attract many more who are motivated and inspired by your success. Now is the time to move past mediocrity and live the big, inspiring and joyful life we were meant to live!

Leanna Fredrich, Mindset Coach, Adv. EFT, Adv. Psych-K
PS: If you would like support as you retrain your brain for success email me at Leanna@amazingmondays.com I look forward to talking with you!

Take a moment to sit down, breath in deeply , and notice if your muscles are tight or relaxed I’m betting  you will be surprised at how much tension you hold in your body.  Many generations ago maybe all that tension kept our ancestors alive but now, for the most part, it keeps us headed towards stress- related diseases and chronic anxiety.  There is a small part of our brain called the Amygdala.  It a super- sensitive fear alarm.  In fact, in research studies where blind people were “shown” frightening images their amygdala’s registered fear even though the research subjects did not see the pictures.  You can only imagine what we pick up in our environment to activate our amygdala.  It is no wonder that most of us live in a state of at least some level of daily anxiety.

When you choose to create big dreams and plans for your life there is plenty of amygdala activating thoughts and actions to be taken.  It is easy to be scared into inaction while calling it procrastination or busyness.  That’s why it is so important to learn to calm and sooth your amygdala.  So how do you calm your amygdala?  Meditation is one of the most proven and effective ways to calm that part of your brain.  You don’t have to join a group of monks to make it work for you.  A very simple and quick meditation is to plug one side of your nose and breath in and out slowly.  Then do it on the other side.  Repeat for 5 minutes and notice how your body relaxes.  (It’s great to do during tense meetings.  Quite a conversation starter!)

Find time to meditate 5-10 minutes per day and notice how much calmer you are.  It will make it much easier to grow and stretch outside your comfort zone as you create the life of your dreams.

Have an amazing Monday!

Leanna Fredrich , Mindset Coach , Adv. EFT, Adv. Psych-K

leanna@amazingmondays.com