As you finish your last minute shopping and go to that final Christmas party don’t forget to give a gift to your brain!  So many of us, as the year draws to a close, use this time to reflect.  We look back at our year and most of us begin beating ourselves up for what we didn’t do.  We recount our shortcomings, look at our not- so- perfect waistline, bank account, cluttered closets… the list goes on.  Then with grim determination and  gritted teeth we make out our New Year’s Resolutions.  What joy!  I have a different suggestion…

Starting today and continuing through New Year get out  a beautiful piece of paper, journal or notebook, pick up your favorite pen and start listing your successes for the year.  Be generous and list the small as well as big accomplishments.  This is like a beautifully wrapped gift to your brain.  A part of your subconscious mind is the Reticular Activating System.  It is the filter that sifts through the information you are exposed to.  It decides if you should notice the information consciously  or not.  The RAS is an obedient servant looking into the world for anything you have said is important.  This year give it lists of successes to focus on.  As you give yourself the message that you are successful your brain will automatically (Really, this is without conscious work!  Don’t you love it?) look out into your world and find other opportunities and resources to create success.  This gives you the edge you want to reach your goals and have fun doing it.  So get started now.  It will make your Christmas merry and bright!

Have an amazing Monday,

Leanna Fredrich, Mindset Coach, Adv. EFT, Adv. Psych-K

Leanna@amazingmondays.com

PS:  If you would like help setting yourself for success this year email me at leanna@amazingmondays.com

One of the top fears of being successful is the fear and disorientation that comes from   “leading the pack.” Fears of making a mistake or if you’re leading others, fear of leading them the wrong direction can easily be strong enough to cause successful people to sabotage. So much of what we do as  leaders is done in the subconscious mind. Think about something you are really good at… I remember when I was water-sking and practicing the slalom coarse a lot. Nothing would make me mess up faster then to start looking at the buoys or thinking about my body position! I had practiced enough to make those activities subconscious and when I tried to make them conscious it didn’t work. Professional musicians, athletes and top business leaders all experience this.  Leaders get feelings about directions a company should take and a vision about a successful coarse of action. The brain has processed that vision before the conscious mind knows about it so instead of a methodical justification it is more a 6th sense or a spontaneous feeling that “this will work.” Learning to trust this feeling is the key to relieving the fear of “being in front.”

The truth is, it is much more comfortable to be in a group, to follow a leader then to take the position at the front. Unfortunately, staying in our comfort zone never led to the success and huge impact that so many of us get excited about creating. So where do you start? The first step is to begin trusting your own guidance. Learn to get quiet and listen to your inner voice and gut feeling. Practice daily. Watch the results. Little by little you will learn to trust your vision and as you do that, your comfort level with success will grow.  Then, and only then, will you be ready to embrace the level of success you long for.

Have an amazing Monday!

Leanna Fredrich, Mindset Coach, Adv. Psych-K, Adv. EFT

PS:  Still feeling stuck?  Email me at Leanna@amazingmondays.com

Of all the fears in the world, fear of success is the fear we are most blind to. Many client’s will tell me they are afraid of failure not success. So I challenge them look at their lives, goals, dreams and the truth is, they are already failing to meet those goals. They are handling failure just fine! Most of us are not that afraid of failure, we are afraid of success. One of the top reasons for fearing success is the fear of loneliness. Think about what happens when you are the boss or manager over a group of people. No longer can you stand and gripe at the water-cooler. You have to keep your feelings more contained. You feel alone.

Studies of top performers in business and sports show that top performers enjoy being alone. They enjoy focusing inwardly. This doesn’t mean that they are antisocial it simply means they enjoy the time they have to be alone and work on their craft. Rather then focusing on loneliness they focus on how their success will attract people to them.
Take a minute to think about your vision of success. Are you afraid that when you reach your goals you won’t fit in with your family, friends or business associates anymore? Can you handle being alone for periods of time without feeling lonely? If you are seeing some mental roadblocks to reaching success then now is the time to work on them. Start finding ways to spend time alone and enjoy it. Challenge yourself to think of success as a people-attractor. Understand that while you may lose some friends who are threatened by your success you will attract many more who are motivated and inspired by your success. Now is the time to move past mediocrity and live the big, inspiring and joyful life we were meant to live!

Leanna Fredrich, Mindset Coach, Adv. EFT, Adv. Psych-K
PS: If you would like support as you retrain your brain for success email me at Leanna@amazingmondays.com I look forward to talking with you!

Need help on how to maximize your strengths at work and in your life as a whole? It’s the one step that will help you not only be a top performer but have passion for life. Questions? Email me at leanna@amazingmondays.com.

Take a moment to sit down, breath in deeply , and notice if your muscles are tight or relaxed I’m betting  you will be surprised at how much tension you hold in your body.  Many generations ago maybe all that tension kept our ancestors alive but now, for the most part, it keeps us headed towards stress- related diseases and chronic anxiety.  There is a small part of our brain called the Amygdala.  It a super- sensitive fear alarm.  In fact, in research studies where blind people were “shown” frightening images their amygdala’s registered fear even though the research subjects did not see the pictures.  You can only imagine what we pick up in our environment to activate our amygdala.  It is no wonder that most of us live in a state of at least some level of daily anxiety.

When you choose to create big dreams and plans for your life there is plenty of amygdala activating thoughts and actions to be taken.  It is easy to be scared into inaction while calling it procrastination or busyness.  That’s why it is so important to learn to calm and sooth your amygdala.  So how do you calm your amygdala?  Meditation is one of the most proven and effective ways to calm that part of your brain.  You don’t have to join a group of monks to make it work for you.  A very simple and quick meditation is to plug one side of your nose and breath in and out slowly.  Then do it on the other side.  Repeat for 5 minutes and notice how your body relaxes.  (It’s great to do during tense meetings.  Quite a conversation starter!)

Find time to meditate 5-10 minutes per day and notice how much calmer you are.  It will make it much easier to grow and stretch outside your comfort zone as you create the life of your dreams.

Have an amazing Monday!

Leanna Fredrich , Mindset Coach , Adv. EFT, Adv. Psych-K

leanna@amazingmondays.com

If you’re like me you have been to many goal-setting seminars where the instructor encourages you to set goals and then write a date by which you will reach those goals.  In fact I have even been one of those instructors!  The idea, of coarse, is to get you moving.  Sometimes this works but more often then not it will freeze you into abrupt and solid inaction.  Oh, perhaps you’ll take a few small  steps until you hit your first obstacle then everything else will feel more important to work on and there goes your goal.  So why does this happen?

There are at least two parts of the brain responsible for your inactivity.  When you set a big goal. Let’s say, doubling your income by the end of the year.  This goal will most definitely take you out of your comfort zone and require change and growth.  The Psycho-cybernetic mechanism which acts like a thermostat to let you know when you are out of your comfort zone kicks into high gear.  It’s letting you know that you are setting a goal that is really pushing your percieved safety. (Remember to the brain change=danger) This causes discomfort and sends an alarm to the Amygdala which is the part of your brain that senses fear.  That’s when you start believing that checking your emails or cleaning cat hair from under the dryer is way more important then your goal of doubling your revenue!  And that my friends, is why putting a date on your goal is not always such a great idea.

Now there are some goals that are well within your comfort zone.  For those goals go ahead and set a date.  It will motivate and excite you.  That is the key.  If setting a date on a goal makes you feel excited then that’s exactly what you should do.  But if setting a date on a goal makes it feel like a burden, overwhelming or downright frightening  don’t do it!  By setting a date all you will do is freeze yourself like a frightened rabbit.  Instead, write the goal and then start working with your limiting beliefs.  The reason a goal scares you, is that filed away in your subconscious, are beliefs that don’t line up with that goal.  Ask yourself, what are the downsides to this goal?  What am I afraid will happen?  Let’s go back to doubling your income.  Perhaps you feel that if you double your income your not- so- supportive family will come with their hands out.  Or maybe your friends will not be able to relate to you because you have passed them up financially.  Whatever it is,  acknowledge your limiting beliefs and start working with them.  Here are the first steps…

1.  Write down your vision and goal and a compelling reason why you want to reach it.

2.  Write some positive affirmations to retrain your brain for success.

3.  Read your vision and affirmations daily.

4.  Take action towards your goal, even if it is just a baby step.

5.  Notice what beliefs and fears come up as you take action.

6.  Don’t put a date on it until it feels good, just keep taking action.

Have an amazing Monday!

Leanna Fredrich, Mindset Coach, Adv. EFT, Adv. Psych-K

PS:  It is much easier to reach your goals and change your limiting beliefs with  a coach who has tools to help you move quickly.  I would be honored to work with you.  If you’re interested email me at Leanna@amazingmondays.com