How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself at Life’s Crossroads
When you come to a fork in your life’s road, it’s tempting to agonize over making the “correct” choice. But here’s a secret: the exact route you take matters far less than the mindset you bring to the journey. Every step is a chance to consult your inner Sage, checking that your path aligns with […]
Curiosity Killed the Cat, But Can Save Your Career: The Power of Explore Mode
Have you ever watched a tiny tot toddling along the shore, picking up stones, peering under them with unabashed curiosity to see what lies beneath? That’s the Sage (Our Wise self) Explore mode in its purest form – all fascination, wonder, with no agenda other than to discover. Even in the thick of calamity, the […]
Embrace Empathy: Your Guide to Inner Peace and Power in 2024
As we begin this new year it is often an opportunity for our inner critic to get busy! “You didn’t do enough last year. You better get busy this year.” This world can be so harsh, can’t it? So many people attacking themselves and others for not meeting impossibly high standards. It breaks my […]
Freeing Yourself from Your Saboteurs!
In the last 9 blog posts I have covered each of the saboteurs. It may be tempting as you become aware of your saboteurs to think about fighting back against them. That never works! Because as you fight against them you are actually judging them and while doing that you are activating your Judge […]
The Victim Saboteur
I think most of us would hesitate to accept that we may have the Victim Saboteur as one of our coping mechanisms. We don’t like to think of ourselves as victims. But the Victim Saboteur is very effective at least in the short term in helping us get our needs met. So it’s no […]
The Stickler Saboteur – My Way or the Highway!
The Stickler Saboteur has some many admirable characteristics. They are hard workers and dependable. If a project needs doing, they will be the ones staying late to make sure it is done “right.” Many people who are victims of this saboteur will admit that they are a “little bit perfectionistic.” They believe that there is […]
The Restless Saboteur – What’s Next?
May I introduce you to The Restless Saboteur? If you are driven by this saboteur you are probably already thinking that there are better things to do with your life then read a blog entry! The Restless Saboteur has a very hard time focusing on the present moment and feeling contentment in that moment. You […]
The Pleaser Saboteur- What Can I Do for You?
It’s easy to guess why the Pleaser Saboteur is a “favorite” of so many of us. Starting very young our survival ( or so we thought) was linked to making our caregivers happy. We learned to please others to get along in this world. ” If my teacher likes me he/she will give me better […]
The Hyper-Vigilant Saboteur – Always Prepare for the Worst!
Life is dangerous. People cannot be trusted. If I am not prepared no one else will be. Thoughts like these are the constant refrain of the Hyper-Vigilant Saboteur. A person run by this saboteur is in an almost constant state of anxiety. This saboteur causes a person to doubt themselves and others. They want to […]
The Hyper-Rational Saboteur – It’s the “Right” Way to Be!
Have you ever met someone who under stress becomes super rational? (Maybe the person you’ve met with this characteristics is you! ) The bigger the crisis the more focused this person becomes-looking for the “right” answer. The Hyper-rational Saboteur tends to come across as detached, intellectual and private. They are often skeptical or cynical in […]